Last night, I sat ready to blog when a sound to my right on sofa made my head turn. Quiet laughter followed as I stared at my husband’s closed eyes. He fell asleep during my 3 episode binge of a new Amazon Prime series, The Wheel of Time. His glasses were perched on his nose while his nasally breathing continued. Those are the moments that make me smile, and think yes I still want to be with this person.
Like a sleeping pet, he’s just too adorable and I want to give him a pet on the head because he’s still next me. He didn’t sneak off to bed, he fell asleep next to me because he wanted to spend time with me. There might be soft snorts in my ear but he made an effort. If you’ve been married a while, then you’ll understand what I mean when I say that at one point or another one of you is going to have to “save” your marriage, or fight to keep it going. All relationships take effort. A tug, and a pull back and forth.
While everyone else is getting ready to brace the procession of cars on the highway, or the long lines at the airports I can just sit hear and listen to the sounds of someone I love breathing. Okay, I’m a writer. I can’t help it. I take advantage of all the little things that make things work. I’ve written too many chapters on break-ups and make-ups. This person snoring next to me has witnessed me crying for no reason when I’ve been writing sad scenes, and he’s noticed when I’m working on steam scenes. Well, sometimes he’s asked if I’ve been writing “one of those scenes” because I have to see just how soft someone’s lips are when they get kissed. Maybe he should be thankful that I’m a writer.
Of course, there’s been phases when I’ve gone through every femme fatale and assassin series out there too. He just shakes his head and says, “another one for your collection?” These kinds of questions are normal in our home too. He never asks, “should my wife know that much about weapons, or other darker subjects?” Nope. Because all of this is normal when you’re married to a writer. My writing adventures have taken us to new restaurants, new towns, and all kinds of experiments. So, to those who brave a relationship with one of us – I both applaud you and question your sanity.
Let’s all be thankful this year for all the little things that make us who we are! I’m off to put someone to bed.
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